Before we rescued the Budster, we knew the decision had been made when the night he stood at the gate and cried as we drove away after a visit. We knew we could not leave him alone in that backyard any longer. It was time for him to come home. We did the right thing and brought him home the next day and he is happy.

Since he passed through the heart worm season of darkness, he has thrived and he is happy. Even when he was going through the horror of the treatment, he held his head up and kept moving forward. He was able to endure because he knew we loved him and we were there with him every step of the way. At one time I might have said that he is cute but he is so much more than that, he is absolutely adorable! He smiles, he wiggles and he puts on the sass when he’s feeling extra special happy and he has a very good reason to be happy. He is surrounded by love.

These days it’s trendy to say, “You are responsible for your own happiness,” and in case you didn’t know, that is a load of garbage. Should we have told the Budster, “You are responsible for your own happiness,” and left him there? You see how ridiculous that sounds. Does the statement no longer apply simply because Buddy is a dog? No, the statement is yet another odiferous expulsion from a self-centered society and its roots run deep into the heart of sin.

Luke 6:31
Treat others in the same way that you would want them to treat you.

Our self-centered society disavows that scripture. They take and take and never give unless it benfits them. They refuse to accept any responsibility when their actions hurt others. After all, everyone is responsible for their own happiness, right? That attitude is the antithesis of love. Read 1 Corinthians chapter 13 and see if the “you are responsible” thing fits. Hint: It doesn’t and as it contradicts the scriptures we all know what side of the pearly gates it’s from.

Let’s apply that phrase in another setting, shall we? Look God in the face and tell Him, “You are responsible for your own happiness.” [cringe] That made you uneasy, didn’t it? If the statement is truth it shouldn’t matter who you say it to but it is not true and it does matter.

While He was hanging on the cross, Jesus didn’t look at his mother and say, “Woman. you are responsible for your own happiness.” That would be wrong. That would be sin and that can only be said from a heart of stone. Jesus did quite the opposite.

John 19:
26 So when Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing there, he said to his mother, “Woman, look, here is your son!”
27 He then said to his disciple, “Look, here is your mother!” From that very time the disciple took her into his own home.

With great compassion, Jesus joined their hearts and hands and called upon them to look after each other.

Let’s try another setting.

Matthew 25:41-44 (sort of)
41 “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you accursed, into the eternal fire that has been prepared for the devil and his angels!
42 For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink.
43 I was a stranger and you did not receive me as a guest, naked and you did not clothe me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’
44 Then they will answer, ‘Lord, you were responsible for your own happiness.”

Wow! That’s scary to even think about. Do you see how wrong the statement is when you apply it to the Scriptures?

Fact: The Missus and I are responsible for the Budster’s happiness. Knowing the need and leaving him in that backyard, we would have been responsible for his emotional turmoil. Our actions had and have a direct bearing on his feelings and his actions have a bearing on ours. The Budster makes us happy because of who he is and how he shows his love for us. He in turn is happy because he knows we love him and he knows we will take care of him. To a great extent, I am responsible for my wife’s happiness and she is responsible for mine. That is how this whole love thing works. If it is truth, it is truth wherever it is applied.

We have a responsibility to one another. We cannot go around hurting one another and holding them responsible for being unhappy. On the other hand, we cannot expect someone to make us happy if they obviously do not love us. It’s obvious when someone doesn’t love us and it’s be obvious when they don’t even like us. Constantly embracing someone like that is foolish. Don’t cast your pearls before swine. Walk away and find someone who appreciates you. There are a lot of people out there to choose from. Go find some.

The next time someone tells you that you are responsible for your own happiness, walk away from them because they have a spirit within them that you don’t want any part of.

God didn’t put us on this earth and say, “You are responsible for your own happiness.” Quite the contrary.

John 16:24
Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.

With a gleam in His eye, God is saying, “What can I do for you?” Why don’t you two go make each other happy.


This song made me happy and I thought I’d share it with you.

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Joyce Ellis is the CEO and Caretaker of WarmFuzzy's Animal Shelter & Sanctuary. She was born with the vision, the Energizer Bunny who keeps going and going. She is Fuzzy1 of all WarmFuzzy's.

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