I remember the day I brought Ruger home. He and I sat on the back ramp and ate peanut butter sandwiches together and that was the beginning of a very special relationship. He was my bestest buddy in the whole world. We ate together, played together and slept together. He was a cuddle bunny. I covered him with the blanket to keep him warm and he liked that. He loved his dad and his dad loved him. I miss my buddy.
The Budster has been through a lot before and since we rescued him. The heart worm treatment knocked him down hard but he’s back on his feet. Losing Miss Annie was hard for him. They had gotten to be very good friends and then one day she was gone. He has been through a lot and his life has been unsettled for a long time but he’s settling in…again. He and I are buddies, not like Ruger and I were buddies but we’re buddies nonetheless. We have a different relationship. It’s our relationship and it’s unique. He is not Ruger and he never will be. I don’t expect him to be Ruger. He’s Buddy. For the longest time it was hard for me to say his name because the word “buddy” had always been synonymous with Ruger. It’s easier for me to say it now but it took a long time. Buddy loves his dad and his dad loves him.
Love can be expressed in many ways. Some people are gushy, some are clingy, some standoffish and some grumpy but they love as deeply as anyone else. I think the reason some folks don’t get along is because they have a preconceived notion of how love should be expressed and they are looking for something that fits their mold. Some are lucky enough to find what they are looking for, some learn to adapt and some simply can’t accept anything that doesn’t meet their narrow expectations. Some men want to marry a girl who loves the way their mother did and some girls are looking for a guy like their father. Both are typically disappointed. You know the people I am talking about. They want Buddy to be Ruger and it will never happen.
1 Corinthians chapter 13 gives us a high-level overview of love. It says love is patient and kind but one person’s patience and kindness is expressed differently than another’s. Where someone is long suffering, someone else might think they are surrendering their identity. Everyone has an opinion and everyone has different expectations of what love should be.
Buddy expresses love differently than Ruger did and it’s awesome because it comes from his heart. I don’t judge him because he is different. I love him for who he is.
I express love differently than others and it may or may not meet their expectations but that doesn’t mean my love isn’t real. It just means that we are all different and we are all wonderful when we love.