We found Lucy laying beside the road across from the gate to our property. She was cold and hungry and we thought she might be lost. We eventually discovered that she belonged to the neighbors and was prone to getting loose and running around the countryside. When we found her mommy and daddy, they told us they didn’t want her back. We took her in, got her the medical attention she needed and gave her a full belly, a comfy bed and a roof over her head. We gave her the love she deserves. You can learn more about Lucy if you search our site.
Lucy is not good with other dogs and does not like cats. She is, however very good with people and we’ve heard she absolutely adores children. We have no reason to doubt that at all, given her nature. Caring for Lucy, we have come to know her likes and dislikes and we’ve discovered a quirk or two. For example, Lucy walks counter clock wise. Yeah I know, it sounds weird but it’s true.
When we take Lucy outside on a leash we have to watch that we don’t get tangled up as she walks ’round and ’round before she does her business. Always counter clock wise. Even if she wants to turn right when something catches her attention she will loop around counter clock wise until she’s pointed in the right direction and then off she goes. Well, maybe it’s not one hundred percent of the time but it’s definitely in the upper nineties. We have no idea why she does this but she is consistent. Lucy walks counter clock wise and that’s just the way it is.
We don’t try to change Lucy. We accept her for who she is, realizing that there might be something in her past that brought about this unusual behavior.
She and I were out walking the yard the other day and as I whipped the leash over my head a few times to stay unwound, I thought about how we all have our little quirks, our own unusual habits, and we seldom take the time to try and understand when we see them in others. It’s easy to understand why Ruger, my best buddy, was food aggressive, because he was starved as a pup. We didn’t judge him or beat him. We knew we couldn’t change him so we worked around his quirk by feeding him away from the other dogs. Sophie, our three-legged kitty is extremely skittish and does not allow us to pet here. Ever. We know she had a horrible experience with humans, so we work around that. We allow her to be herself and we treat her with love and respect. Why is it so difficult for us to do that with people?
I once knew a man who spent time in prison for murder. Make that two men. I don’t know why or how but they killed someone and did their time for their crime. Most people thought these men were scary and unstable and they didn’t have a clue to their past, nor did they care to find out. I took the time to listen to these men. They were very angry and frightened of others. It took a while but eventually they told me their stories and then their defenses went up as they awaited my judgement. Neither of these men expected me to sigh and say, “Sometimes shit happens.” We became friends.
Now you might think my response was inappropriate given what these men had done and perhaps it is by some unwritten standard somewhere but these men have already been judged and found guilty. What’s the point of doing that again? They served their time. Hard time. What more does society want from them? I learned that one of these men had a horrific childhood. What he went through caused the dominoes to fall. The other, I don’t know. He was an older gentleman and he’s dead now. Cancer got him. Yes, I called him a gentleman. He was more of a gentleman that most men I have met.
My grandmother was the meanest woman I have ever met and everyone feared her. They’d cringe when she came around because you never knew what would come out of her mouth. Hateful woman. I never heard her say one nice thing about anyone, ever. I stood up to her once. She said something mean to me, I snapped back at her and told her to mind her own business. She was definitely not expecting that. Later, I heard that she began calling me her favorite grandchild. Who knows. I wasn’t there to hear it. She’s gone now and I’m older and I think I might understand her more. I believe she was so mean and angry because she was hurt inside and no one took the time to understand where the bile came from. People who are hurt tend to hurt other people. I remember being around her mother when I was a child and I can only imagine.
So yes, Lucy walks counter clock wise. We don’t know why and neither do you. We’ll never know why and that’s okay. We’ll live with her quirks and work around them because we love her.
Like you, we are considerate of our animals, we respect their quirks and work around them. Imagine what the world would be like if we all extended the same consideration to people.
1 Do not judge, or you too will be judged.
2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
Like you, I have a few quirks and I have often been judged harshly because of them. Not by Lucy though. Lucy loves me. Maybe she read the Bible. What do you think?